Helping a Loved One Cope
It can be very difficult and heart-wrenching to see a loved one struggling with symptoms of mental illness. And often it can be hard to know how to best help and support your loved one.
Every individual is different and situations vary greatly. The person may have a specific diagnosis, or you may just have concerns about the way a person has been talking and behaving.
Here are a few tips and things to consider when you are trying to help a loved one.
1- Know The Warning Signs Of Mental Health Problems
For example, withdrawal from social interaction, unusual problems functioning at school, work or social activities or dramatic changes in sleep and appetite are possible signs. See more on Warning Signs of Mental Illness.
Someone exhibiting these signs or having these experiences does not necessarily mean the person has a mental health problem, the symptoms could also be related to other issues or problems. But following up with an evaluation from a medical professional could help address any problems and prevent more serious symptoms from developing.
2- Getting Started, Approaching The Issue
One of the hardest and most important steps may be just starting the conversation. You do not have to be an expert or to have the answers.
Express your concern and willingness to listen and be there for the person.
Don't be afraid to talk about it.
Reassure them that you care about them and are there for them. Use "I" statements. For example, use "I am worried about you…," "I would like you to consider talking with a counselor…." rather than "You are…." or "You should….".
Try to show patience and caring and try not to be judgmental of their thoughts and actions. Listen; don't disregard or challenge the person's feelings.
Encourage them to talk with a psychiatrist. For some people, it may be helpful to compare the situation to a physical health concerns and how they would respond. For example, if there was a concern about diabetes or high blood pressure would they be likely to seek medical care?
Remind them that seeking help is a sign of strength.
3- Learn About Mental Health Conditions And Treatments
Educate yourself. The more you understand about conditions, symptoms, possible treatments and what to expect, the better you will be able to support your loved one.
However, carefully consider sources of information online. As with any topic, the quality of information available online varies a great deal.
4- Help Address Potential Barriers
Try to anticipate and help address any potential barriers to the person seeking help. For example, find out about local resources available to help. Make it easier for the individual by researching potential therapists, hours and locations. If you think they might be barriers, address possible issues with transportation, childcare, strategies for communicating with an employer, etc.
5- Seek Support For Yourself
While you're focusing on helping your loved one, it's also important to take care of yourself – physically and emotionally. Reach out for help for yourself if you need it. Recognize and acknowledge the limits of what you can give.
6- Expectations & Collaboration
It is important to have realistic expectations. Recovery is generally not a straight-forward process, there will be likely be improvements and setbacks along the way. With permission of your family member you can work with their treatment team to help provide support.
Even if you feel your support and actions are not making a difference, they are likely making a difference for your friend or family member. You loved one may be hurting and not clearly recognize what you're doing or may not be able to express appreciation. But knowing you are there for them can be important in helping their recovery