Coping After Disaster

Following a disaster, most people will ultimately do well and return to their previous level of functioning. However, many people will initially experience distressing thoughts, feelings, and physical symptoms and may engage in risky behaviors to help cope.

Traumatic events are not easy for anyone to comprehend or accept. Understandably, many children feel frightened and confused. Fortunately, most children, even those exposed to trauma, are quite resilient. Parents, teachers and caring adults can help by listening and responding in an honest, consistent and supportive manner.

There are steps that individuals can take for themselves and their families to reduce negative effects and improve their ability to function at home, work, and school. This page features resources that can assist in coping with disasters and other traumatic events.  

Helping Adults Cope after a Disaster

Common reactions in adults after a disaster:

Trouble falling asleep or staying asleep
Sadness, depression, hyperactivity, irritability or anger
Having no feelings at all or feeling numb
A lack of energy or feeling exhausted all the time

Lack of appetite or, the opposite, eating all the time
Trouble concentrating or feeling confused
Social isolation, reduced or restricted activities

Thinking no one else is having the same reactions as you
Headaches, stomachaches or other body pains
Misusing alcohol, tobacco, drugs or prescription medications to cope

Helpful steps for adults after a disaster

Eat, hydrate, exercise, and get rest on a regular basis; taking care of your body reduces the negative effects of stress.
Avoid using alcohol, tobacco and other drugs to manage distressing emotions; these substances often make things harder in the long-run and can cause problems.
Find healthy ways to relax, such as breathing exercises, meditation, mindfulness, calming self-talk, soothing music.

Engage in fun and restoring activities, including exercise, hobbies and social activities.
Keep informed about new information and developments. Use credible sources of information to avoid speculation and rumors.
Limit exposure to media content about the disaster; overexposure can increase distress.

Stay connected with friends, family, neighbors and colleagues to give and receive support. Helping one another aids in healing.
Learn what local health care and other resources are available; use and share this information to help yourself and others.
Remind yourself and others that its normal to have many different feelings as well as “good days” and “bad days” as a natural part of recovery.
Seek assistance from a psychiatrist if your distress remains high after several weeks, you are having persistent trouble functioning at work or home, or thinking about hurting yourself or someone else.

Helping Children Cope with Traumatic Events

By creating a supportive environment where children feel safe asking questions and believe their concerns are being heard, we can help them cope with stressful events and experiences and reduce the risk of lasting emotional difficulties. Although these may be difficult conversations, they are important. There is no "right" or "wrong" way to talk with children about these events.

Below is information on common reactions and how to help children and adolescents after disasters.

Common reactions in children and teens after a disaster

Trouble falling asleep or staying asleep
Sadness, depression, hyperactivity
Irritability or anger
Having no feelings at all or feeling numb
Adolescents and teens may use alcohol, tobacco, drugs or prescription medications to try to cope

A lack of energy or feeling exhausted all the time
Lack of appetite or, the opposite, eating all the time
Trouble concentrating or feeling confused
School aged kids may get into fights, socially isolate, or have trouble with schoolwork

Thinking no one else is having the same reactions as you
Headaches, stomachaches or other body pains
Very young children may become clingy, fearful, have tantrums, or resume behaviors such as bedwetting or thumb-sucking

Steps to help children and adolescents after a disaster

Let children know there are people helping keep the community safe. It's a good opportunity to show children that when something scary happens, there are people to help.
Limit exposure to television and social media content about the disaster; repeated exposure to frightening or intense images increase distress.
Maintain routines at home and school as much as possible
Spend family time together; this can increase feelings of safety and provide helpful opportunities to talk and share.
Ensure they have regular meals and get good sleep every night.
Find healthy ways to relax, such as music, reading, sports, and other hobbies.

Stay connected with friends, family, classmates and neighbors to give and receive support. Helping one another aids in healing.
Use words and concepts children can understand. Gear your explanations to the child's age and understanding.
Make time and encourage kids to ask questions. Don’t force children to talk about things unless and until they're ready.
Give children honest answers and information. Children will usually learn if you’re making things up, which can diminish their trust in you.
Be prepared to repeat information and explanations several times. Some information may be hard to accept or understand. Asking the same question over and over may also be a way for a child to ask for reassurance.
Acknowledge and validate the child's thoughts, feelings and reactions. Let them know that you think their questions and concerns are important and appropriate.

Remember that children tend to personalize situations. For example, they may worry about their own safety and the safety of immediate family members, friends and neighbors.
Be reassuring, but don't make unrealistic promises.
Help children find ways to express themselves. Some children may want to talk about their thoughts, feelings or fears. Others prefer to draw pictures, play with toys, or write stories or poems to help them cope.
Be aware of how you respond to the tragedy and talk about it with other adults. Children learn from watching parents and teachers.
Children who have experienced trauma or losses in the past may be more vulnerable to prolonged or intense reactions. These children may need extra support and attention.
Monitor for physical symptoms, including headaches and stomachaches. Many children express anxiety through physical aches and pains. An increase in such symptoms without apparent medical cause may be a sign that a child is feeling anxious or overwhelmed.